"The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don't have any." - Alice Walker

I listened to a webinar called "Calling in the One," and it forced me to take part responsibility for my unsuccessful relationships. By replaying moments from my past and listening to my fears and the excuses I give for not having found the One, I discovered a pattern.

Where and how did I give up power in these relationships? I constantly make myself too available. I am too often the friend, putting my concerns and feelings second in order to "help" the guy I am dating. I always ask, "am I too much?" "What did I do wrong?" "Why are all the guys I fall for unavailable or not ready?"

Someone once asked me,"What role do you play in the movie of your life?" I answered, "the good friend." Even as the words came out I realized the absurdity of my answer. "Shouldn't you play the leading role in your own life?" he said.